The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it. – Nicholas Sparks
Spring is here and with it a richness of inspiration.
It holds the promise of newness and aliveness that are part of the cycle of life.
Here in Southern California, we are witnessing areas that were burned to the ground be revived into fields of greens and wild flowers.
Spring is reminder of life itself.
Spring is a reminder that life moves in cycles. What was once felt as darkness or a wound may very well be the invitation for healing and growth, for beauty and lightness to renew in us.
In my work with women, men and couples what I see as the greatest challenge is the healing of the wounds—events, words, beliefs, memories—that keep people hostage in continuous loops of disconnect.
When wounds occur, we process them as a trauma. Life keeps moving in its natural cycles, but your instinctive nervous system, the free flowing mind, and the intuitive relaxation and tension of the body get stuck.
We know now that when trauma happens, neural pathways in the brain misfire or get blocked and the nervous system along with muscle tissue creates habitual and repetitive body tension.
In our effort to survive, to feel better, we become human-size bobbleheads trying to think our way in the world rather than be present to what we are experiencing in the now and in our relationships with life, our loves, and ourselves.
Healing… Remembering Who We Really Are
No one has ever purposely chosen to disconnect from the wisdom of the heart and the body. We do what we do to survive the wounds.
And, we can choose to heal.
Just like the greens and blooms are part of the healing process to the formerly charred hills, we are reminded that our wounds, our hurts, our pains can also heal and can one day bloom into true desires of the soul.
Birdsongs remind us of the song of the hearts—our loving nature and heart-desires long forgotten.
The smell of roses and blooms can help us recall a time when we were free to feel into the body, when we were fully engaged with our senses and connect to pleasure we naturally feel when we enjoy life.
The longer days perhaps a nudge towards more playfulness and adventure.
Because even if you lived a life previously void of all of this, you can choose to live there now. The best part is you don’t have to do it alone.
This is what healing is—a remembering of the Self—remembering your voice, your body, your feelings—before the wounds and the stories began. A reigniting of the natural cycles of our light and beigness.
Feel the feet on the ground.
The sun or cold on your face—it does not really matter.
Breathe… slowly…inhale…exhale… repeat.
Remember you are the most powerful manifestation of newness and alive that life has ever created.