There are many causes of sexual health concerns for men.
Some are physical and require a medical doctor to assess hormones and other physiological conditions that may be causing a problem. Others are related to stress, anxiety, or life concerns that lead to problems in sexual functioning and interest. Therapy or counseling provide a form of talk therapy * that creates a safe space to find clear and workable solutions.
We do not have one sexuality, we have several through out our lifetime, and men are often not aware of this.
The lack of knowledge consequently leaves men more often than not thinking that there is something wrong, shutting down, and not seeking help.
In my work with couples, what I consistently see as a central issue is unmet desires and emotional needs in the relationship.
In the last few decades, there has been a change in the roles in intimate relationships between men and women.
As a result, the expectations of men in intimate relationships has also changed yet there are contradicting cultural beliefs that lead men to feel even more alone and painfully disconnected from their partners and their own sexual self.
There exists a confusing polarity in what it means to be a modern man leaving many uncertain how to be in their intimate relationships.
Part of my work with women and men is to help men to better understand and respond to the hopes and expectations of their partners,.
As well as teach ways to be more effective communicators to their partners.
It is a myth that men are on and off buttons and that they should want sex all the time.
Intimacy is different for men and women. Life events, both positive and negative, impact male sexuality. There are many causes of sexual health concerns for men. Stress, anxiety, medical issues, and even positive life events may lead to problems in sexual functioning and interest.
Culture and society often reinforces the myth that men should want sex all the time.
Male sexuality is complex and multilayered. In fact, most men report a deep desire for connection with themselves and their partners during sex. What is often not taught or openly shared among men is the masculine’s unique need and requirements for intimacy.
I truly believe that every man want to be the hero of his relationship or family.
Every man has a vision of what he wants for himself, his family, his life and his community. My focus becomes getting to the root of is perceived as the obstacle that appears in the way of this vision. Together we explore what is working while finding ways to create what you most desire in every facet of your life.
Commonly helped issues:
Difficulty getting or sustaining an erection
Difficulty with sexual arousal
Lack of sexual communication with a partner
Coping with a partner’s health issue
Uneven desire in a relationship
Compulsive masturbation or sexual behaviors
Shame around sexuality or sexual expression
Restoring sexuality after cancer or addiction recovery
Sexually compulsive behavior/ out of control behavior including sex, pornography use, and masturbation
Infidelity and infidelity patterns
Sexuality and aging
Sexuality and illness
* Sex therapy does not involve any form of physical contact, nudity, or sexual behavior between client and therapist.