Have you ever felt stuck, lost, frustrated, or lonely in moving forward with something—a decision, next steps, relationships, deepening in creative flow?
And I hated it!
I would then proceed to force myself, make myself sit with something until it got done and then be disappointed with the results. I would even continue discussions with my partner until they became full-on fights. None of this ever ended well.
Then after the failure or the fight, my negative self-talk would rip me apart. This felt like an endless cycle leaving me feeling shittier each time.
Until I figured out that to do anything in life, I had to love myself first.
Each moment—each failure, each fight, each moment of fear—was my inner knowing, my inner counselor, reminding me to pause and practice self-love
Fights between romantic partnerships erupt when one partner does not feel loved, validated or worthy by the other.
Feeling of failure happen when we feel that results we are getting don’t match what we desire.
We feel lonely, disconnected and forgotten not from our partners or the Universe, but from ourselves.
Those moments of stuck, frustration, upset, loneliness, and confusion have always been the HIGHER SELF reminding me to LOVE myself right there and then.
Next time you’re stuck, feel lost, don’t know what to do, or feel unloved. Pause. Remember that whatever story you are telling yourself is… well… fake.
Instead, ask yourself, “How or what can I do right now, this very moment to be loving with myself—really, really show love to myself?”
When we practice loving ourselves first we are kinder, more generous, deepen our connection to Source and we are more willing to forgive—ourselves and others.
We don’t have to perform great feats. Taking time to be with ourselves, to be still, to pay attention to the whispers of our inner wisdom is what is required. If you want to learn the importance of feeling it all click here.
I find that when I do this, what is essential is to take a breath, to feel my feet on the ground and remind myself that I am okay. From this place I can inquire what I want and how can I go about it from a calmer, more connected place.
Sometimes it has meant that I move my body, tend to my roses for a while, or even take a nap.
So next time you find yourself, stuck, fighting or at a loss for what to do next….pause.
Loving yourself is your greatest asset to getting anything done.
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With much love,