With holistic healing we can let go of the idea of being “fixed” and instead receive healing.
Many clients report that after years of therapy, even coaching, not being able to quite achieve the changes that they have long desired.
Traditionally, both templates focus on updating and reframing thinking, expressing emotions, and changing behavioral patterns. For some, this is enough and works great. For others, a more holistic approach is needed.
You do not need fixing. You are not broken. What we all are in need of is healing. Healing that helps us forgive the past and unearth our own brilliance. Healing so that we can reawaken and connect more fully to a vibrant body, a loving heart, a creative mind, and connected to life itself. – Jacqueline Mendez
Holistic healing seek to integrate and align of body, heart, mind, and spirit in a way that supports you, honors your story, and allows you to experience more freedom and aliveness.
The issue is in the tissue.
Our body remembers and holds deep within the tissue of our being what the mind and heart may have forgotten. What we experience in our lives, our tissues remember.
Whether physical, mental, or emotional trauma, the physical body remembers the experience of the mind and vice versa. In an effort to help us feel safe and so that we know how to respond and survive any given experience, the nervous and muscular systems develop a protective reaction for future threats. We develop a durable and robust defense mechanism or coping skill.
The problem occurs when this function no longer serves us and we are left with reactions shutting down, avoiding, dissociating, or habitual tension patterns. We find ourselves in an endless cycle of tightness and exhaustion due to an over-functioning of the sympathetic system—fight, freeze, or flight response.
So when we experience something in our environment that reminds us even slightly of a previous experience or emotion, we then unconsciously choose to avoid, tighten, and re-enact previous responses.
Body-focused and nonlinear techniques utilize movement. It helps bring into awareness, shifts, and ultimately releases that which does not serve us. We then can make space for growth and vitality. This along with breathwork provides experiential healing and understanding that may not be present in traditional sit and talk therapy.
Holistic healing does not fix a problem.
It helps us find ways to release and heal the memory of the body, heart, and mind. We teach the body to let go and unravel the habitual mental loops while opening up the heart space, and reconnect more “wholey” with the energy of the body.
Ultimately empowering ourselves in love, intimacy, sexuality, embodiment, and life mastery.
Why include the body?
Breathe! Everything begins with the breath.
Connecting with the breath allows for greater sense of relaxation. Breath can also create greater connection and alignment as habitual tension is released allowing for easier integration of body, heart, mind, and spirit.
Different breathing techniques, connecting the inhale and exhale, are used to assist clients in relaxing the body. As a result, clients better understand and release habitual patterns.
Breath also helps a client connect more deeply to her/his body which in turn allows a space where thoughts, memories, feelings, or blocks that have been held down are able to surface and be released.
Our physical bodies are channels for our own innate wisdom.
The body speaks through tension, aches, relaxation, and pleasure. As a result, when movement and physical awareness practices are integrated into sessions, a more holistic manner of healing occurs. A more meaningful exploration of the nuances of the body happens in the present moment, and a deeper understanding of healing occurs.
This leads us to transform and liberate ourselves from the retelling of old stories that no longer serve us — those stories that keep us stuck in negative behavioral and relationship patterns.
Clients learn to tune in to the body’s cues as a response to their emotional, mental, and behavioral states. Tics, aches, sensation, and pings, along with specific movement, allows the client to develop a keener sense of self awareness and observation.
This assists clients in replacing unwanted and unproductive emotional, mental, and behavioral patterns. Ultimately healing the whole of the person.
The Sweet Spot
The sweet spot is the intersection of how we embody and integrate the physical, emotional, mental, and the spiritual aspects.
By pulling from belly dancing, feminine movement, nonlinear movement, Tantra/Sexual Yoga, and Latin dancing, clients are provided with a unique and enriched experience.
Ultimately inspring others to create extraordinary lives, deeper intimacy, and experience greater sexual freedom and expression.
Sensuality and Sexuality
The practice that engages and helps us embody our innately sensual body is sensuality. Sensuality helps us align and integrate the body, heart, mind, and spirit which creates connection to the Divine within.
Sexuality then is the the expression of this alignment. Sexuality is the expression that supports us in desiring intimate connection with others.
Embodiment… Movement… Tantra
These are the core concepts that are threaded in my work with my clients because they have proved the most effective in getting my clients the results they most desire.
Embodiment is the ability to feel what you are feeling.
From a psychological perspective, embodiment is a unifying process influenced by the body’s physiology, sensory systems, motor systems, and emotions.
It is the practice of remaining present and aware with what one is feeling, thinking, and experiencing while still feeling the bodily responses to what is occurring rather than engaging in habitual responses that trigger avoidance, squelching of feelings, or other negative coping skills.
Slowing down, being deliberate with movement, and engaging in techniques
that nourish the body, heart, mind, and spirit, so that one can experience life in the present moment.
Mindful movement is not dancing or movement that imposes on the body. It is about learning how the body communicates with you and how it wants to surrender to more a relaxed and pleasurable state.
Clients are taught how to use tension and relaxation to break-free from habitual patterns and tune into their intuitive wisdom while creating more aliveness, sensuality, and feeling more comfortable in their own skin.
In the West, we have a misconception of what Tantra means in large part to people like Sting who talk about marathon sexual events. Tantra can and many times does consist of sex, but that is a very small part of the practice.
Tantra is more about leading a devotional life and being openhearted to all of life experiences.
It is a practice of feeling everything without attaching stories or false beliefs to what is being experienced. It is a practice of being fully present to what we choose to say “yes” and “no.”
Because many do live life mindlessly and even check out during sex, things are done by routine and without a whole lot of reflection. Paying attention to what you’re experiencing in your body, the way you are breathing, learning what feels good and what does not are vital. And in a sexual moment, extending this attention to how one’s partner is responding is also very important.
In the classical sexual ritual, the participants worship each other as embodiments of deities. Partners are encouraged to bring an attitude of reverence into their lovemaking and to all their interactions.
Tantra then becomes a practice of giving and receiving through devotion, love, and open heartedness.
“The root of all health is in the brain.
The trunk of it is in the emotion.
The branches and all leaves are the body.
The flower of health blooms when all parts work together.”
– Kurdish folk wisdom