Love Power Freedom

Why Love Power Freedom?

Because LOVE POWER FREEDOM is what most men want to create, integrate and master in every facet of his life. 

LOVE

BEING LOVED AND LOVING BACK ARE ESSENTIAL TO OUR HUMAN EXISTENCE. MEN REALLY DO DESIRE LOVING AND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS, TO CONNECT GENUINELY, AND TO LIVE AUTHENTICALLY AND  PURPOSEFULLY.  

And yet many men have been taught to fear love, avoid deepening into love, to lack true intimacy in their relationships, and to squelch emotional needs.

Hundreds of clients have shared with me how painful it is for them to be vulnerable in their friendships with other men, with family members, and in their romantic partnerships because of messages from childhood which often tell men not to feel or to fight against expressing emotion.

More recently men have been told to soften up, to embrace their feminine qualities, and to express their emotions. When they cannot follow through with these suggestions, only more stories of not being good enough get created.

The key is to help men not stuff their feelings, but to explore them, to become aware of them, and to have inquiry around them.  Because by dealing with and processing emotions, men lift the burden and the heaviness and uncover emotional strength and energy.

When this happens, they are more available to love, connect, and create intimacy.

Power

Often I see men compensate for perceived insecurities by doing and achieving more.  They become outwardly successful while inwardly covering up feeling dissatisfied, alone, and confused.

Men also find themselves in a conundrum of having to be alpha male or beta male.  The alpha being powerful and the beta not so much.

Look up alpha male and you get a list of its “wanted” characteristics: confident, mentally strong, competitive, physically strong, strong body language, have swagger, dominate, fight, calm under pressure, dress well, need no external validation, and, of course, gets the girl.  This is not always feasible for even the most balanced and empowered male.

Real power has nothing to do with being alpha.

POWER HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH PRACTICING EMPATHY AND BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS.

Men who are out of balance act out by adopting the vices of masculinity rather than its virtues. They present as predators of those they perceive as weak rather than protectors of the innocent or those unable to fend for themselves.

Empowered masculinity does not use bullying, aggression or swagger to one up others.

Instead, he is okay with being wrong because there is always room for growth.

Rather than fixing a problem, he support the person who is having the problem. Uses reflection instead of offering solutions. He practices empathy and does not talk at others.  He uses leadership to guide and support others.

Freedom

Freedom is the state where people have the opportunity to speak, act and pursue happiness without unnecessary external restrictions.

It is essential because it leads to enhanced expressions of creativity and authentic ideas, increased productivity, and an overall high quality of life.

In Western culture, young men are encouraged to seek freedom from home, to explore, to fight, to become their own “man”, and even break family or community rules if necessary.  Eventually returning home to a place of security to begin their own family and legacy.

The Heroes Journey is huge in mainstream culture.  Think Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, Peter Parker/Spiderman, Frodo, and even Simba from The Lion King.  The story ends when the hero comes home. We don’t see the challenges that come after.

FREEDOM IS THE BALANCE BETWEEN AUTONOMY AND COMMITMENT, BETWEEN INDIVIDUAL SPACE AND SHARED BONDS.

A common pain point for both men and women is feeling that they have lost themselves in their relationships, work, and lifestyle.

The key to working skillfully with desire and intimate relationships is to develop mindfulness of our emotional patterns — particularly how we handle the many manifestations of our desire.

Creating freedom from a place of compassion for ourselves and those important to us and from equanimity.

 


Why have a woman lead? What can a woman teach me about being a man?

First and above all, I am not teaching you to be a man.

The feminine qualities of empathy, intuition, openness, and nurturance are the magnets that help bring out the balanced and empowered masculine.

And… the flow of the feminine needs to be present to help nurture and reinforce the direction of the masculine.

This is not about teaching you how to be a man, but to unearth and anchor the masculine energy already in you in a way that serves your highest purpose and what you want to create.

 

It’s time.
It’s time to love how you want to love and be loved.
It’s time to embody power in unbounded ways.
It’s time to welcome the freedom to be who you really are. 

 

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