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Emotional Needs, Emotional Triggers

“The strongest love is the love that can demonstrate its fragility.”  – Paulo Coelho   The other day I was sitting in my office was screaming began in the office next door.  A man and a woman screaming at the top of her lungs both saying the same thing, “You are not listening to me!” …

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To do anything in life…

Have you ever felt stuck, lost, frustrated, or lonely in moving forward with something—a decision, next steps, relationships, deepening in creative flow? I have. And I hated it! I would then proceed to force myself, make myself sit with something until it got done and then be disappointed with the results.  I would even continue …

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Ah, to embody love

Ah, to embody love. A practice many think begins when we first fall in love. But, one that I have come to believe begins when we first fall out of love with love. Because our invitation to re-embody love often arrives when we have experienced hurt, disappointment, and heartache.  When heartbreak cracks us wide open. We become students …

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Sacred Sexuality + More Heart Space in Your Sex Life

While modern religions have defined sacred and spiritual as being separate from the body, from nature, and certainly from sex, the ancient the roots of our language and history imply something quite different.  Our collective history suggests that at one time there was a sacred nature to sex.  Given the shifts in our current culture …

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The Dirty Little F Word Required for a Great Valentine’s

V-Day is here! Love is in the air… may be… I keep seeing posts and blogs about being “so over Valentine’s Day.”  Now I don’t necessarily buy into the fanfare, Hallmark cards, and candy.  But, I am also reminded that as humans, we are programmed to connect, love and be loved. So to ignore or …

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The Most Essential Ingredient for Hot and Sexy Love

It’s February!  The month we celebrate love.  But before we dive into how to have a sizzling and hot V-Day, let’s stop for a moment and talk about the most essential ingredient to hot and sexy anything…. (drumroll)…. SELF-LOVE. By definition self-love is having regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. In my work with …

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The Natural Ebb and Flow of Intimacy

Intimacy… plays an essential role in humans.  As social creatures and at the root of our humanity, is the craving for close, personal and reciprocating relationships with others. Intimacy usually refers to mutual openness, sharing, and vulnerability.  Its lifespan can range from a single interaction to a long-term relationship of years or even decades. It …

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Holidays… Holy Days … Invitation to Practice Loving

  A reminder that the holy days, regardless of religion, culture, language, country, or ethnicity, are an invitation to love freely – without the need for reciprocity or finding worthiness in another. An invitation to practice love loving love – the practice of being present and loving for the sake of loving.  To love openly because we are all …

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The Gifts of Pulling Away

“He doesn’t really listen” “She plays on the phone rather than spend time with me” “It’s like I don’t even exist” “I feel invisible” “The dog gets more love than I do” When a man or a woman checks out emotionally, mentally, or physically from their relationship, it can be for many the beginning of …

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The Gift of Thanks-Giving

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.  I love food… and I am enamored with sweet potatoes and yams.  My love for them is so great that it is not uncommon for me to make several sweet potatoes and yams recipes on this holiday.  There’s also the mashed potatoes and gravy, watching the dog show (I usually eat …

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Our body… The Greatest Learning Instrument… Enjoy the Ride

If we are all spiritual beings having a human experience, then our greatest learning instrument is our body. Let’s start with our most human parts.  Our belly being the keeper of our emotions and the archaic stories of our tribe.  Our hips helping us move in the world. Some with more relaxation, others with more …

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Sensual… Not Necessarily Sexual

A few weeks ago as I was facilitating a workshop, I spoke about sensuality and sexuality and how they were different.  Most of the participants appeared and shared their surprise in hearing me say this.  A few then shared that they thought that both were the same thing. By definition SENSUALITY is any condition that is about being …

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