Spring Healing 🌷

The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it. – Nicholas Sparks

 

Spring is here and with it a richness of inspiration.

It holds the promise of newness and aliveness that are part of the cycle of life.

Here in Southern California, we are witnessing areas that were burned to the ground be revived into fields of greens and wild flowers.

Spring is reminder of life itself.  

Spring is a reminder that life moves in cycles. What was once felt as darkness or a wound may very well be the invitation for healing and growth, for beauty and lightness to renew in us.

In my work with women, men and couples what I see as the greatest challenge is the healing of the wounds—events, words, beliefs, memories—that keep people hostage in continuous loops of disconnect.

When wounds occur, we process them as a trauma.  Life keeps moving in its natural cycles, but your instinctive nervous system, the free flowing mind, and the intuitive relaxation and tension of the body get stuck.

We know now that when trauma happens, neural pathways in the brain misfire or get blocked and the nervous system along with muscle tissue creates habitual and repetitive body tension.

In our effort to survive, to feel better, we become human-size bobbleheads trying to think our way in the world rather than be present to what we are experiencing in the now and in our relationships with life, our loves, and ourselves.

Healing… Remembering Who We Really Are

No one has ever purposely chosen to disconnect from the wisdom of the heart and the body.  We do what we do to survive the wounds.

And, we can choose to heal.

Just like the greens and blooms are part of the healing process to the formerly charred hills, we are reminded that our wounds, our hurts, our pains can also heal and can one day bloom into true desires of the soul.

Birdsongs remind us of the song of the hearts—our loving nature and heart-desires long forgotten.

The smell of roses and blooms can help us recall a time when we were free to feel into the body, when we were fully engaged with our senses and connect to pleasure we naturally feel when we enjoy life.

The longer days perhaps a nudge towards more playfulness and adventure.

Because even if you lived a life previously void of all of this, you can choose to live there now.  The best part is you don’t have to do it alone.

This is what healing is—a remembering of the Self—remembering your voice, your body, your feelings—before the wounds and the stories began.  A reigniting of the natural cycles of our light and beigness.

Go outside. 
Feel the feet on the ground. 
The sun or cold on your face—it does not really matter.
Breathe… slowly…inhale…exhale… repeat.
Remember you are the most powerful manifestation of newness and alive that life has ever created. 

Love,
Jacqueline

Seeing through Eyes of Love

How do I love thee?

Let me count the ways…

Everything that happens in life is an opportunity to LOVE.

And above all, an opportunity to love YOU—to truly 100% love yourself completely, no matter what.

Every failure.

Every heartbreak.

Every panic attack.

Every clumsy moment.

Every win.

Every celebration.

Every moment… an invitation to love yourself.  To dive into the pool of self-love.

Many believe that to love oneself is selfish.  That it is undesirable and perhaps even narcissistic.  Some even cite cultural rules and religious dogma that self-love is…well… simply wrong.

To practice loving ourselves, is remembering your true nature, that you cannot love others without loving yourself first.

 

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. – Buddha 

 

When you honor your love for yourself, you open and give to self and others from an ever-filled abundant well of love.

To love yourself means to give love, attention, and care to the self, so that you can be filled to overflow and then be able to share, love, and nurture your relationships, careers, work, housework, parenting, and your lovers from that space.

Self-love is a practice of filling the yearning from your soul because it is about practicing listening to what we desire, acceptance of it, and acting towards it.

Self-love is important because it is process of remembering where your genuine power resides.

To love you means being willing to say no to what does not serve and yes to what brings more aliveness and hope.  Errors and mistakes transform into openings where the light shines in.  

To be in self-love makes life simpler and more carefree. 

Because when you love yourself more, mountains aren’t made out of molehills. You are kinder and more compassionate.  You stop beating yourself over mistakes or temporary setbacks.

You remember that you are ultimately responsible for your own happiness.

And, when you find yourself in relationships and circumstances that set you back, you replenish your own well, request a change or even walk away because you know that love calls each of us to shine and help our beloveds do the same.

Self-love inspires you to feel more deserving of the good things.  There’s less sabotage.  And, more freedom to  go for it—to go after the heart’s desire with more motivation, gusto and focus than ever before because you believe in YOU.

To love yourself is the ultimate reminder that the Divine does not reside outside of you.  Rather it is in you

To be in self-love is to see you through the eyes of love especially those moments when the world or our ego tells you that you are undeserving.

Seeing though eyes of love…

Celebrate yourself every day.  This is not about perfection, but your willingness to notice the quotidian things you do that are done with care and love.  With self-Love, we express self-appreciation and compassion.  We celebrate our wins—big and small—because we are worth it to ourselves. 

Practice self-forgiveness.  Everyone does the best they can given the circumstances, skills, and choices one perceives having in that moment.  If you could have thought of something better to do… you would have done just that.

Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! ~ Dr. Seuss.  The greatest act and most powerful of practicing self-love is accepting you exactly as you are.  This does not mean that you never heal, grow and learn.  What it does mean that all your quirks, imperfections and warts are ways of loving yourself.

 

Love,

Jacqueline

 

PS: If you are a woman in Greater L.A and want support in creating a self-love practice, join me at Shine Bright from the Inside Out on September 22nd.