If we are all spiritual beings having a human experience, then our greatest learning instrument is our body.
Let’s start with our most human parts. Our belly being the keeper of our emotions and the archaic stories of our tribe. Our hips helping us move in the world. Some with more relaxation, others with more tension… both being okay. Our pelvic floor rooting us to Mother Earth and the place where we connect and disconnect from everyone else. All of it showing up for our learning and expansion.
Throat, eyes, and crown being our more ethereal and abstract parts. Our throat seeking to speak our truth, sing what we feel, and shout what we must say at times. Our eyes guiding us to what we envision for ourselves. The eyes also being the mirror, gateway to the soul – the core of our being that carries no stories of hurts or dissatisfaction, but just pure loving. Our crown being the spot in our body that is most connected to that which is higher than us. Call it any name you want – God, Yahweh, Allah, Spirit, Universe, Goddess – it is all the same. It is the part of us that leads the inquiry into who we are, what life is about, and seeks meaning to our existence.
This leads us to the heart. The part that balances the ethereal and the human, the part where love resides. It is in our heart space that love is born, love is given, and love is received. Stories do not exist here. When we are born, breath comes through here. And when we leave our body, breath comes through here. It is the place where we nourish our human desire to connect and our soul’s calling to expand.
So where does the brain fit into all of this?
Your body is the vehicle while your mind is the navigation system. They work together, not separately or in contradiction of each other.
We are the drivers of our ride. When we decide to go right, we go right. When we decide to turn left, we go left. The navigation does not take over, but simply helps us get there. From time to time the navigation system gives us feedback “maintenance required,” “hazard,” or even “system overload,” but it does not take over the driving. Therefore the only time our minds take over is when we forget how powerful and divine we really are.
You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You came equipped with all you need to handle this crazy and delicious life ride.
So next time the navigation system wants to take over, here are a few suggestions:
- Breathe s-l-o-w-l-y feeling every inch of your being. Notice where the tension is. Breathe into that area.
- Place one hand over heart and the other over the area tension and say, “I am a spiritual being having a human experience and I arrived equipped with what is exactly needed at all times.” Repeat as needed…and breathe.
- Celebrate the good moments. Don’t wait to remember you are human only in the negative, heavy moments. Celebrate the happy feelings because they too are part of this ride.
Loving and supporting you,
Photo by Craig Whitehead
I recently attended, both as participant and assistant, in a woman’s workshop focused on sexuality and the Medicine Wheel led by the incomparable Gina Ogden.
On the first night, all the women walked the Wheel, placing their sacred objects and sharing with the group what each object represented — one representing what they want more of in their sexual life, the other representing what they want less of. As the evening continued, one theme came to light — the impact of religious training on sexuality, particularly that of that Catholic church.
This peaked my interest, since I attended Catholic school for 12 years and I was fully aware of the training and dogma that these women shared. As I heard the women speak, I found myself feeling incredibly grateful for my rebellious spirit and my curiosity — they have always been my saving grace. The truth is that I never believed what the priests and the nuns said about love and sex. I did not believe that I would be a sinner for enjoying the pleasure of my flesh since God himself (or herself) had created this very flesh. As far as I can remember, I believed that sex was one of God’s greatest gifts. It was a gift that allowed us as humans to transcend our bodies and the illusion of separation from others. There is a reason why, in moments of absolute pleasure, the words “oh my God” are said aloud in every language and across every religion.
As I sat in the circle, watching and hearing these women, I was also keenly aware that I had a small picture of St. Teresa of Avila in my bag. Until that moment, I had been unsure of the reason why I had packed it a few days before.
In the Medicine Wheel, sexuality and spirituality exist in the same quadrant because the quadrant is about connectivity. Although many may not agree with me, I cannot see any separation of sexuality and spirituality. One leads directly to the other. My spirituality is about connecting more lovingly and authentically with myself, others, and God. My sexuality exists for the same reason.
The women in the circle reminded me that night that much work needs to be done to heal the lines that create separation, aloneness, despair, and negative beliefs about God and sex. When St. Teresa was placed in the circle, I believe the healing began. That night, there was a lightness that she radiated from the center of the circle into the heart of every woman.
Ecstasy of St. Teresa Giovanni Lorenzo Bernini, 1645-1652 Rome, Italy: Santa Maria della Vittoria, Cornaro Chapel. Teresa is clothed from head to foot in a loose hooded garment. Her feet are bare, the left one prominently displayed. Her eyes are shut, her mouth opened, as she swoons in ecstasy. Standing before her is the figure of a winged youth. His garment hangs on one shoulder, exposing his arms and part of his upper torso. In his right hand he holds an arrow that is pointed at the heart of Teresa.
Originally Posted on 11/13/2015