Sensuality and Sexuality
The practice that engages and helps us embody our innately sensual body is sensuality. Sensuality helps us align and integrate the body, heart, mind, and spirit which creates connection to the Divine within.
Sexuality then is the the expression of this alignment. Sexuality is the expression that supports us in desiring intimate connection with others.
The Sweet Spot
Her sweet spot is the intersection of how sex embodies and integrates the physical, emotional, mental, and the spiritual aspects.
By pulling from her enjoyment of belly dancing, feminine movement, and Latin dancing, she enriches her work with clients and provides a unique experience. Her private practice is multi-ethnic and multi-religious.
Her focus is inspiring others to create extraordinary lives, deeper intimacy, and experience greater sexual freedom and expression.
Why include the body?
Breathe! Everything begins with the breath.
Connecting with the breath allows for greater sense of relaxation. Breath can also create greater connection and alignment as habitual tension is released allowing for easier integration of body, heart, mind, and spirit.
Different breathing techniques, connecting the inhale and exhale, are used to assist clients in relaxing the body. As a result, clients better understand and release habitual patterns.
Breath also helps a client connect more deeply to her/his body which in turn allows a space where thoughts, memories, feelings, or blocks that have been held down are able to surface and be released.
Our physical bodies are channels for our own innate wisdom.
The body speaks through tension, aches, relaxation, and pleasure. As a result, when movement and physical awareness practices are integrated into sessions, a more holistic manner of healing occurs. A more meaningful exploration of the nuances of the body happens in the present moment, and a deeper understanding of healing occurs.
This leads us to transform and liberate ourselves from the retelling of old stories that no longer serve us — those stories that keep us stuck in negative behavioral and relationship patterns.
Clients learn to tune in to the body’s cues as a response to their emotional, mental, and behavioral states. Tics, aches, sensation, and pings, along with specific movement, allows the client to develop a keener sense of self awareness and observation.
This assists clients in replacing unwanted and unproductive emotional, mental, and behavioral patterns. Ultimately healing the whole of the person.
Embodiment… Movement… Tantra
These are the core concepts that are threaded in my work with my clients because they have proved the most effective in getting my clients the results they most desire.
Embodiment is the ability to feel what you are feeling.
From a psychological perspective, embodiment is a unifying process influenced by the body’s physiology, sensory systems, motor systems, and emotions.
It is the practice of remaining present and aware with what one is feeling, thinking, and experiencing while still feeling the bodily responses to what is occurring rather than engaging in habitual responses that trigger avoidance, squelching of feelings, or other negative coping skills.
Slowing down, being deliberate with movement, and engaging in techniques
that nourish the body, heart, mind, and spirit, so that one can experience life in the present moment.
Mindful movement is not dancing or movement that imposes on the body. It is about learning how the body communicates with you and how it wants to surrender to more a relaxed and pleasurable state.
Clients are taught how to use tension and relaxation to break-free from habitual patterns and tune into their intuitive wisdom while creating more aliveness, sensuality, and feeling more comfortable in their own skin.
In the West, we have a misconception of what Tantra means in large part to people like Sting who talk about marathon sexual events. Tantra can and many times does consist of sex, but that is a very small part of the practice.
Tantra is more about leading a devotional life and being openhearted to all of life experiences.
It is a practice of feeling everything without attaching stories or false beliefs to what is being experienced. It is a practice of being fully present to what we choose to say “yes” and “no.”
Because many do live life mindlessly and even check out during sex, things are done by routine and without a whole lot of reflection. Paying attention to what you’re experiencing in your body, the way you are breathing, learning what feels good and what does not are vital. And in a sexual moment, extending this attention to how one’s partner is responding is also very important.
In the classical sexual ritual, the participants worship each other as embodiments of deities. Partners are encouraged to bring an attitude of reverence into their lovemaking and to all their interactions.
Tantra then becomes a practice of giving and receiving through devotion, love, and open heartedness,
“The root of all health is in the brain.
The trunk of it is in the emotion.
The branches and all leaves are the body.
The flower of health blooms when all parts work together.”
– Kurdish folk wisdom