A few weeks ago as I was facilitating a workshop, I spoke about sensuality and sexuality and how they were different. Most of the participants appeared and shared their surprise in hearing me say this. A few then shared that they thought that both were the same thing.
By definition SENSUALITY is any condition that is about being pleased or fulfilling to the senses. What stimulates one in a positive and enlivening manner. It can, and many times, lead to sexuality. It is the pursuit of pleasure with or without sex being a part of it.
SEXUALITY is the capacity or ability for sexual feelings and preference of sexual expression.
SENSUALITY is about the alignment of the body, heart, mind, and spirit.
SEXUALITY can also be experienced on these same levels through choosing the type of sexual expression, and with whom, connection with another.
There is the physical level — acknowledging the presence of my sensual self, the areas of the body that increase the experience of pleasure. The emotional level — sensing that I am supported, loved and held by a deep energy within. The mental level – accepting that the body was made to experience pleasure. An invitation for some for peace and forgiveness for the misunderstandings and false beliefs about pleasure may exist here. The spiritual level — that sensuality is wisdom, a connection to the Divine.
For me to be sensual means that one is in-bodied and practices being aware of the energy and sensations that occur in the body. And, yes, it is a practice. A practice of seeking what helps me tune in and enjoy being in my own skin more. This is also includes being clear with my “No’s” – what does not feed me, and provide me comfort and pleasure and being willing to share my “No’s” with an open heart.
SENSUALITY is the practice of being engaged with one’s own innately sensual body, aligning the body, heart, mind, and spirit, and opening to the connection to the Divine within. SEXUALITY is the the expression of the engagement, alignment, and opening as well as the deepening of the connection with another.
Nothing engages all of my senses as sound and movement does. Below is a video that always brings me great joy, enlivens me, and invites my body to move. I invite you to listen and be curious… See how the body moves you.